How to Manage Your Traditional Parents When Planning a Modern Wedding

Times have changed, and weddings have evolved from the time your parents got married. And though some parents have open minds about new ways of doing things even when it comes to your wedding, others insist on sticking to old ways. Brides today oftentimes find themselves in stressful situations when planning a modern wedding alongside their very traditional parents. Here are some tips on how to go about it. We can’t promise a smooth-sailing experience, but these suggestions will surely help!

[From: A Heartwarming Cream-Colored Wedding at Hyatt Regency Shatin / Photo: MC Photography]


(1) Communicate

[From: Traditional Blush-Themed Wedding at The Marco Polo / Photos: ]


In all relationships, communication is key. Hence, it is vital also when it comes to working with your parents and in-laws during wedding planning. Be honest and open with the things you want but also be open to their ideas and suggestions. Make a conscious effort to understand where they’re coming from and let them know as well your side. Take time to explain more so that they understand you more as well.

(2) Calm Down

[From: A Sweet Wedding at Park Lane / Photos: Honeybird Production]


When heated discussions arise, calm down. Don’t let emotions rule over you. Instead clear your mind and try to bring the discussion back to the level of openness and understanding.


(3) Come Prepared

[From: A Traditional and Quaint Wedding in Rosary Church / Photos: ]


When parents insist on including important traditions and ceremonies to your wedding, come prepared. Know what these are and understand their importance. Instead of shutting these out completely, express your appreciation, then you suggest other alternatives to old customs.


(4) Compromise

[From: A Heartwarming Cream-Colored Wedding at Hyatt Regency Shatin / Photo: MC Photography]


If there’s a way to find middle ground, then it’s a good way to go. That way, there’s an agreement and both parties still end up getting, more or less, what they want. Of course, if there’s something you feel really strongly about, you can always call the final shot.


Please remember that your wedding day is as much a big day for your parents, too. Deep down, all they really want is to uphold family truths and make you happy at the same time.

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