When it comes to traditional Chinese customs and practices, we understand that one can be overwhelmed by loads of information on the internet or hearsay from this aunt or that friend. As a traditional bride-to-be, you may want to embrace these traditions that have been passed from generation to generation. Here are some pre-wedding traditions that couples are traditionally encouraged to do (or avoid doing). Remember, all for good luck!
(1) Selecting Your Wedding Date
Other than consulting the Lunar calendar or fortune teller on auspicious dates, there are months that are encouraged for couples to avoid as well. Avoid the first lunar month, to avoid clashing of luck with the Lunar New Year, the third lunar month, where Ching Ming or Tomb Sweeping Day occurs, and the seventh lunar month, where it is Hungry Ghost Festival, are considered months with ‘negative’ energy. And don’t forget to avoid the sixth lunar month, too, where it is believed to be a half-year that may result in a ‘half marriage’.
(2) Activities That You can Attend
Couples are encouraged to avoid attending activities that may clash with the luck of their marriage three months prior and after their own wedding. Such activities include attending another wedding or funeral, or visiting a lady in confinement who has just given birth. In the event a parent of the bride or groom passes away, the couple will have to marry within 100 days of their death, or they will have to wait 1000 days before doing so.
(3) Have a Formal Betrothal Ceremony
This important ceremony typically takes place fifteen to twenty days (or up to two months) before the wedding. It signifies the act of a formal proposal by the groom and acceptance by the bride and her family. In ancient times, the couple would only be considered to be engaged after the Betrothal Ceremony has been conducted. Ideally, gifts should be presented in even numbers and an auspicious date should be selected for this ceremony as well. Do check out our checklist on how to conduct this ceremony too.